Let’s face it. Divorce is ugly; not just for the Colorado Springs couple going through it, but for their children, extended family, friends and even their co-workers. Knowing this, many couples opt to remain in a perpetual state of denial, or relationship “limbo.” Separation agreements are pounded out, even custody and child support, but for many couples, this is where it ends.
As a Colorado Springs divorce lawyer, I’ve seen a trend emerging that is well-intended, but ultimately not such a good idea. It’s called “delayed divorce” (not be confused with “trial separation”). A delayed divorce is when a couple chooses separation instead of divorce for various reasons, most of them economic.
If you are going through a divorce, then you may have heard the term “collaborative family law”. This increasingly popular method of dispute resolution is one that encourages a compassionate respect for all participants, and advocates a spirit of forgiveness, responsibility and personal growth. When this technique is employed in a divorce case successfully, it can dramatically improve a family’s quality of life after a divorce. As a Colorado Springs divorce lawyer, I highly recommend collaborative family law to my clients, especially when there are children involved.
As a Colorado Springs family lawyer, I see a lot of clients rush in to file for divorce, in an attempt to beat their spouse to the punch. It is surprising how many people believe that the one who files first will be in a better position somehow in the long run. This is especially common when a marriage breaks up over infidelity.
If one is the first to file, then other dilemmas could arise; such as the decision about whether they should leave the residence. Being the first to file often puts pressure on that person to leave the family home, and this may include leaving the children behind. Some of my clients have asked if leaving the residence means the other party can claim desertion or abandonment.
Anyone who knows how long a divorce can drag out in the Colorado family court system will recommend mediation as a way to keep your sanity. But ultimately it is the state of your relationship during a separation that will determine whether mediation is a good idea. As a Colorado Springs family lawyer, I’ve seen some “amicably separated” couples become openly hostile when faced with a complicated divorce settlement.
In a Colorado divorce, there are two types of documents – the marital agreement and the temporary order - that are used to determine the division of property, assets and debt. They are also used to outline child support, custody and a parenting plan. At the time of a divorce filing, most couples are not ready to make a final decision about every term of the divorce. Instead, they may look to a Colorado Springs family lawyer to draft a temporary order. Here is what you need to know.
Annulment isn’t something you hear about very often these days, but it can be a smart alternative to divorce when the situation permits. As a Colorado Springs family attorney, I am often surprised how many couples ask about it when it is clearly not an option for them. In legal terms, an annulment is called a “Declaration of Invalidity of Marriage”.
Here are some common misconceptions about annulment in Colorado:
Some people mistakenly believe that annulment is possible if their marriage was brief. However, it is a relatively uncommon legal procedure.
Many think an annulment would be simpler than a no-fault divorce, but in reality the two procedures are about equal.
A Colorado Springs family attorney can help you determine if an annulment is right for you, but you must first meet at least one of the following legal grounds:
Not all divorces are created equal, and no one knows this better than a divorce lawyer. As a Colorado Springs divorce lawyer, I’ve seen many couples battle it out in court over the smallest things, while other couples with more complicated settlements breeze through the process with very little contention. The “ugly” side of divorce is when one party tries to contest the divorce because they disagree with the terms. Whenever a petition for divorce is not agreed upon by both parties it is called a contested divorce.