There is no doubt that divorce can be a life-altering experience for anyone, but couples with young children deal with another set of challenges. With all the financial upheaval, how does a stay-at-home mom manage to stay at home after the divorce? In most cases, she can't. One of the biggest misunderstandings among women, who file for divorce, is that they will be able to maintain the same lifestyle afterward. Unless the family is very wealthy, the chances are better that she will be entering the work force.
Are your kids obsessed with "The Parent Trap" movie? Mine are; and it's always made me wonder if they were trying to send a subliminal message, but 12 years later I am still a single parent. But recent articles about reconciliation have caught my attention. Saving marriages through reconciliation counseling isn't something you hear about often, but the subject is not unfamilar to family law attorneys. In fact, it comes up quite often.
It's not uncommon for divorcing couples to celebrate the receipt of their official Decree of Divorce, but is that really a good idea? Too often, couples end up in a courtroom several times after the final decree is issued as they navigate post-decree amendments. In many cases the terms of the divorce no longer work because of changes in your life or your children's lives.
There are plenty of articles out there that spew statistics about the perils of single parent households. Many of these “sources” go as far as blaming single parents for everything from teen pregnancy to gun violence. But the truth is always a little more boring than fiction, and these statistics prove that you shouldn’t believe everything you read. Just like so many other “studies,” the numbers don’t speak to the reality of many single parent households. Rather, they are skewed to show outcomes that would be just as likely with intact families from a disadvantaged socio-economic background.
In a culture that is accustomed to divorce, it may seem like newfound singlehood would be a welcome "second chance," but few people agree on what that means. Does a divorce signal the beginning of dating? Some divorcees have their online dating profiles already written before the divorce is final, while others are happy to sit by the sidelines for a while.
When couples divorce, it's not unusual for them to part with vastly different expectations about what happens next. Couples often agree to share college expenses even when they have little intention of actually doing so. If you are a custodial parent and you expect the noncustodial parent to help with college it is best to get this in writing as a part of a divorce settlement. Even then it may be difficult to enforce in court.
If you are married with young children it might not seem like you hear about many couples getting divorced, but for some reason late-life divorce is on the rise. According to an article that appeared in Huffington Post Divorce, "The Gray Divorcés," the divorce rate for people over 50 has doubled in just the past twenty years. Why would baby boomers call it quits after they've already spent so much of their life together? It all depends on who you ask.
This may sounds like a controversial topic, but it's one that was recently presented in an article in the Huffington Post "Divorce" section. In "Women: Five Reasons Your Divorce Is Your Fault," best-selling author Laura Doyle ("Six Lessons for Lasting Love") explains that women are the ones with the power to make their relationships intimate. In fact, when she teaches intimacy skills she only teaches them to women because she knows that when a women learns these skills her relationship becomes peaceful and intimate in just a couple of weeks. Does this sound too good to be true? Believe it. Doyle's clients often say they feel like they have a new husband. But too often, women don't learn about what they could have done until it's too late to save their marriage.
Anyone who has been through a divorce knows exactly what they would do differently next time, but sometimes a prenuptial agreement seems a little excessive. If you’re considering taking the plunge for a second time, you may have older children, aging parents and various investments. It is wise to consider whether you need to protect your interests with a prenuptial agreement.
It seems like someone who has been through a divorce would be extremely careful about entering a new relationship, but people tend to forget all the mistakes they made in the past. Perhaps it's the resilience of the human spirit, or maybe it's the desire to find happiness after a particularly difficult split; but men and women tend to jump back into the dating pool without checking the depth of the water.
Whether you've already started dating again or you're about to take the plunge, there's a pretty good chance you will exhibit one of the three most common dating behaviors. But if your goal is to move on from your marriage and find the right partner, these dating dangers should be avoided.