But after a few years, the primary caretaker (usually the mother) takes on a much larger share of responsibility than the non-custodial parent. They may even begin to resent the free-spirited lifestyle of their ex, who just “stops by” and gets to be the fun parent. This can result in a strained relationship and a lack of communication between parents, which will hamper future efforts to make joint decisions on behalf of their children.
So what are parents to do to prevent this from happening? The best solution is known as “co-parenting”, and while it takes a lot of work it will help instill a spirit of cooperation between parents. Not only will this alleviate the stress of single parenting, it will also benefit the children to see their parents work together. Children from divorced homes need to feel supported and loved by both of their parents. Co-parenting gives them a sense of stability and security, even in the midst of a divorce, and they learn valuable life skills by watching their parents cooperate.
The ability to co-parent successfully starts with a solid parenting plan. The more specific the plan is, the better it will keep the Colorado Springs family functioning after a divorce. Co-parenting also means being flexible when necessary and willing to make a change in the parenting plan instead of being difficult. There is a lot to be learned about co-parenting, and making a plan is only the beginning. Parents must continue to improve their parenting skills and learn to cope with the complicated issues that often arise in a divorce situation. An experienced Colorado Springs child custody lawyer can help you draft a parenting plan that will address every issue.