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Colorado Springs Divorce Attorney: Confronting Infidelity

Tuesday, 20 July 2010

blog-logoNo matter where you live, infidelity is one of the most common reasons for divorce.  In fact, some surveys suggest that up to 68% of all married couples will deal with some form of infidelity during their marriage.  However, when faced with a cheating spouse, most people don’t know how to respond.  As a Colorado Springs divorce attorney, I see many people seek an immediate separation, followed by divorce papers, without giving much thought to reconciliation.

If you are facing the reality of infidelity in your marriage, here is some valuable advice on how to respond:

  • Never accuse your spouse of infidelity unless you have proof.  It is tempting to rely on our intuition – and insecurities – to build a case against your spouse.  However, before you start pointing fingers, be sure you have some hard, cold evidence to back it up.  Signs of infidelity can include a sudden concern about personal appearance, a dramatic change in daily routine, secretive phone calls, and a lot more time spent on the computer. While these actions might increase suspicion, none of them are clear indicators of infidelity.  
  • Talk to your spouse calmly about your suspicions, and remember to be rational and calm.  Putting your spouse on the defense will only make a bad situation worse.  You are much more likely to get the information you need if your spouse doesn’t think you are going to “go crazy” when you hear it.  An understanding ear and calm demeanor are especially important if you want to save your marriage.
  • Hire a professional.  This may sound like an extreme course of action, but the best way to find out what is really going on is to hire a private investigator.  Remember, the evidence uncovered by a private investigator is usually admissible in court, even in the no-fault state of Colorado. 
  • Consult with a divorce attorney.  If you are able to confirm that your spouse is cheating, and divorce seems like the only rational decision, a Colorado Springs divorce attorney can educate you about the divorce laws in Colorado and how infidelity can affect your divorce settlement.  An attorney will also keep you from dealing directly with your spouse, which can be extremely stressful during this time.
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